Gram Makes Her Point
W. Lorraine Watkins
26 June 2009
By the time I came along Gram had pretty well given up any personal boundaries she may have once had with children. To the consternation of the other grandmother and family, I had the habit of calling her “Fat Gran.” I adored her abundance. She was so soft and accepting of exploration of her person and as well details of her activities.
We grandchildren would free her hair of restraining bone hairpins then comb and brush for hours. It had never been cut and was always worn in a bun on the top of her head. Gram, as I finally accepted calling her, had resisted both the bobs of the twenties and the pompadours of the forties.
It is also my guess that any of the over thirty grandchildren could still recite how to prune roses, scratch a cat’s ears or make biscuits….”First you make a well in the flour…..etc.”
Many more memories flow, but this is about how you could never flummox Gram.
The summer of 1942 my slightly older cousin Shirley and I spent a week or more with her in the home on I Ave in Lawton, Oklahoma. Until that year Lawton had been a typical dusty little peacetime Army town. Pawn shops and penny arcades were the major industries. However by the summer of ’42 the streets swelled with teenaged boys in khaki uniforms and garrison caps. Many as did my male cousins came directly from the CCC ahead of the draft.
My glamorous older female cousins taking full advantage of the fresh stock in town were dating abundantly.
But for me it was a time of deep wounding because I was not permitted to aspire to dating. Shirley a couple of years older than I strained at the designation, and influenced me to do the same. I had a pretty good body but Shirley was gorgeous. She wore dark raspberry lipstick, her deep brown hair in a pompadour and she smoked!
Lord! I wanted to be like her.
Unnoticed Gram was taking all this in. She couldn’t say much about tobacco as she had dipped Garret Snuff since her own teenage years. (The #2 vegetable can for spit was her closest companion, though her daughters never gave up trying to hide it when guests came.)
But on one of those hot 1942 afternoons Shirley and I discovered she did have something to say about other things. We heard a faint call, like a mewing kitten, from the east bedroom. We followed the sound.
It was Gram in the big feather bed.
Claudette Colbert as Cleopatra reclining on her barge could not have been more awesome. Her hair fell over her shoulders and long ropes of beads descended from around her neck. Between her fingers was a smoldering cigarette in a long holder. Cheeks rouged, lips; dark raspberry. The casually draped pink negligee revealed cleavage to her navel.
Sweetness dropped from her lips. “I just want you girls to know what you will look like when you get old if you keep tarting up to those soldiers.”
We didn’t know what tarting meant but got the idea. It was only years later that Shirley and I recognized the other lesson; this unique kinship the three of us shared. Paraphrasing the words of a song of the times; “We’re Either Too Young or too Old.”